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Most people just want four things: connection, autonomy, progress and a peaceful state of mind.
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Design a day full of small wins, and your perfect day is right around the corner. Here are eight exercises to help you do so.
Unlock your perfect day with these 10 questions.
How can we enjoy life not only when everything goes our way, but also when things don’t?
“When I come back home, I feel very tired – a good feeling tired – and I’m happy the day was spent the way it was spent.”
“I am building a pool for my son, right on the Mekong river. He very much love to jump into the river everyday.”
“I want to spend a day resting and enjoying myself. Right now I am buried with assignments and work. I would love to rest and spend time doing things I love, like binge watching films, laying in bed, and reading books.”
Investing in money or friends is a false dichotomy – of course we should invest in both. But which gives more security?
“Outsight, much more than reflection, lets you reshape your image of what you can do and what is worth doing.” – Herminia Ibarra
Did today matter? Why or why not?
“If I have no issues at work and no issues in my personal life, that’s a perfect day. Whatever I do goes smoothly.”
“Consistency. I do this [dance] everyday. There is no more plan or steps, it’s just a feeling. I have to do it until I reach a feeling: ‘Yeah, I’m good.’ It’s a release, a deeply soulful activity to me. That’s a perfect day. Everything else is icing.”
When I’m not living my perfect day, I’ve learned to examine the context surrounding my behavior, and question the assumptions behind not only my perfect day but what conventional wisdom says is good, right and acceptable. Most of all I’ve learned to forgive myself.
“Having the feeling of achieving something. Then rewarding yourself.”
“My perfect day is free form, not feeling rushed at any point, just being free to go… I read that book, I paint that picture, I listen to that thing, I finish that project, whatever it is, I take my time to do it… I literally have space and time to approach the day.”
“I’m a project based person but I need a clean process… My perfect day has to be different everyday. It has to have flexibility to support my interests and necessities at the time… Having a process allows me to introduce variety and spontaneity in a much more specific and clear way and allows me to assess it.”